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Anonymous asked: Hello! I was just wondering what the 'despite everything...' tag was related to in your recently reblogged post? At first I assumed it was a sort of 'despite this having blown over/this not really being talking about anymore' sort of 'despite everything' but my recent paranoia over internet personalities has kicked in and I'm wondering if it's in reference to the writer of the post (Bryarly) - could you possibly clear this up for me?!
I was more referring to this
Bryarly’s still cool, don’t worry.
internet celebrity culture has the power to grant essentially any person a direct position of power and influence over young and impressionable people, with no filter in between.
it can be taken advantage of on a whim with little friction, both actively by people who actively plan and endeavor to take advantage of people, as well as passively by people whose intentions may be less overtly sinister but who show reckless and irresponsible negligence toward understanding and policing their own actions.
if you do or have ever had any place in internet celebrity culture, it is a necessity that you fully understand the implications of it. it is your responsibility not only to hold others in your circles and community accountable for their actions, but to look inward and understand how it affects you and how to detect and address warning signs in yourself before anyone else has to.
this has gotten to the point where everyone in these communities needs to be engaged personally in the conversation, both internally and externally. the level of tolerance for this shit by community figures needs to drop off the map and the conversation needs to be visible.
Why can’t there be a male hooter’s equivalent where male servers are shirtless and highly sexualized for their bodies and looks
Male Strip clubs. You’re thinking of male strip clubs.
No. Not a male strip club. A strip club is a strip club. I want a place called Cahones where waiters wear Speedos and are forced to stuff if they don’t fill out their uniform well enough. I want them to giggle for my tips. I want it to be so normalised and engrained in our culture that women bring their daughters there for lunch (because whaaaaaat the wings are good! Geeze sensitive much?) where they’ll give playful little nudges like, “Wouldn’t mind if you dad had those. Heh heh heh.” that their daughters don’t even understand but will absorb and start to assume is just the normal way grown up women talk about grown up men. I want to playfully ask my waiter if I can have extra nuts on my salad and for him to swat my arm with an Oh, you because he knows if he doesn’t his manager will yell at him. I want other men to pretend to like going there so I think they’re cool. I want to go to Cahones during my lunch break at work and when I come back and tell the other women in the office where I went they chuckle slightly and the men around us suddenly feel self conscious and they don’t know why.
Hey guys! I have a bunch of asks I haven’t replied to yet - I’m really, really sorry and I’ll get around to them soon (hopefully later tonight), and I promise I’m not ignoring you. I hope you’re all okay, you brilliant humans, you. <3
if you tell someone ‘no’ and they respond with “FINE……….” or “guess ill be all alone….” or “its okay im used to having my hopes crushed…….” or any of that guilt-inducing passive aggressive fuckery, cut them straight out of your life because you never deserve to feel bad for setting boundaries or speaking your mind.